Generally, I don't think there is a guideline on how to strategize when dealing with problems but if there is then am not sure. From my own opinion, i believe there is no particular guidelines because everyone is different and thinks differently so works for Mr A maybe not work for Mr B that's why we have to follow our intuition and apply whatever knowledge we have to solve a problem.
Three major things to consider aside intuition while dealing with a problem.
Number one is to always read to get knowledge and be informed to learn from other people's experience and strategies or how they deal with issues.
Secondly, is to work on yourself to become a better person that you want to be. Practice makes perfect as they say, practice the things you learn and know what works for you.
Thirdly, is to be conscious with our attitudes to know when and not when to act or when to talk and not when to talk depending on the problem we are dealing with and always take a deep breathe to calm your nerves before you react to a situation.
There is a simple memory of my past that always brings a smile to face which was a situation that I thought I would not handle.
This was when I almost dropped out of a school program (Pre Science) because my jamb score was lower than the cut off mark. After my secondary school, I registered for prescience which is a six months program because I didn't get admission into the university that year.
The cut off mark for jamb is one eighty while the cut off mark for prescience is two hundred and prescience makes use of both jamb score and prescience score to give admission which means that I must reach the cut off mark or above for both jamb and prescience in order to get admission into the university. Failure to pass one means no admission through prescience from the university.
That year, I wrote jamb the first day exam started which was on a Saturday and I was supposed to travel back to school (prescience) on Sunday after my exams. The next day I was meant to travel back was the day jamb sent me a message which I read and saw one forty one as my score, oh my God, I was heartbroken, speechless, scared and confused at same time, I froze for a while with me phone thinking of what to do next.
A lot of thoughts came to mind that moment especially the thought of not getting admission and the thought of leaving school after I already paid school fees and lodge fee plus other money spent in school but I couldn't tell me parents about it, they will be disappointed and won't let me go back to school that day because they will feel is waste of time and resources to continue with a program that I won't get admission from. I said to myself, "no this is not my score, I don't believe it, there is a mistake somewhere" so I deleted the message first from my phone so that nobody else will see it, I wanted to hear other people's score to know if it was a mass failure or just me. I went back to school that day without telling my family about it tho I was tensed and bothered about the score and was praying that nobody will ask me about my jamb score.
That period I was not myself because I was a bit depressed about the issue but I kept taking a deep breathe each time I feel anxious or tensed. When I came back to school, my lodge mates were asking me about my exams and I said," it was fine, I thank God oo, is by God's grace". Then I was having faith that miracle will happen and my score will change so anybody that asked me if I have seen my result I will say " no, that they haven't sent my own result", with faith I kept on stressing the point that they should send my own result because I believed that was not my score which I kept putting in prayers that God will change my situation.
Luckily for me, my parents didn't really disturb me about checking my result till when jamb added extra forty marks to some students which I was among them, it boosted my score to one eighty one and I was able to reach JAMB's cut off mark which i was happy and a bit relaxed because it gave me hope to continue my prescience program. When my dad called me to ask about my result, I told he that I will send my details to my elder brother to check, I didn't want to tell him the score myself because the score is very low for the course I applied for tho is still above cut off mark shaa.
My dad later called back to tell me my score and how bad my performance was, I said to myself if only they knew how low my score was, but I was moved because my dad didn't shout or overreact unlike my elder brother that was acting as if he is my real father, so he only encouraged me to sit up in order to do well in my prescience because that's my only hope of getting admission that year.
Finally, after all these calls my mind was settled and I was relieved of the stress of letting my family to know my score tho I didn't tell them about my formal score. Ahh, at last this challenge ended, let me be free and breathe peacefully without gasping for air.
So many challenges come our way on daily basis but it all depends on how we handle the issue, there are good days and bad days which is part of life. Attitude is a little thing that makes a difference._ Winston Churchill so we should always take note of that because that's what affects our life in general.
The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life... We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play in the string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is ten percent what happens to me and ninety percent how I react to it. And so it is with you... We are in charge of our attitudes._ Charles R. Swindoll
OK, to complete my story. I later passed my prescience (two hundred and thirty four) with an OK score and got admission through prescience into the university to an OK department (Parasitology and Entomology).
The truth is that, there will always be a past (yesterday), present (today) and future (tomorrow). A lot of things come and go in our lives, even the situations we think that will not end, will definitely end one day no matter how long it takes, for everything that has a beginning has an end.
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That beautiful smile when you feel you're getting to your destination. Decided to take a picture in front of the new reconstructed school gate. #Unizik #Anambrastate
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